Anonymous asked: So instead of people saying your not fat you want them to tell you that your are fat (but beautiful)?
Preferably fat and beautiful, because the ‘but’ implies that you’re beautiful despite being fat, which isn’t the best message.
I’m not saying that everyone should go around calling everyone fat. Because of internalised fatphobia, that would upset more people than it pleased. What I’m saying is that we should stop essentially telling people that they can only be either fat or beautiful - that the two can’t go together. Saying ‘no, sweetie, you’re not fat, you’re beautiful’ is essentially saying that you can’t be both, which is something we’ve been told all our lives and need to unlearn.
I hope that answers your question! Sorry, I’m an artist, not a writer or someone who is very good at speaking for everyone.